Darvin's always telling me that I take things too seriously, that I don't know how to relax and have fun. He's right, of course. I learned early on that life is serious business. The little girl on the left has the defiant look I wore so often as a child (some might say that I still wear it). The little girl on the right (same girl as in "Play While You Can," has that tentative, "people-pleaser" smile that I know so well. When you're little, that smile melts hearts. When you're 41, it just makes people think they can take advantage of you. I'm trying to relax more and not be so serious, so this will be my reminder . . .